I’m Cheating on My Husband Because He Refuses to Go Down on Me

I know it’s wrong, but it’s the best sex of my life.as told to TAYLOR ANDREWS MAR 18, 2019

MICHAEL DONOVAN

I sit and wait for him in our usual corner of the hotel bar, wondering about the orgasms he’ll give me tonight. Will there be a long buildup to something super deep and satisfying? Or will we get straight to the fast, pulsating releases he knows I love?

My eyes stay low, intentionally avoiding the heavy diamond on my left finger. When he shows up, he breathes a sweet “hello” into the back of my neck. Ugh, if only this happened more often than twice a month…if only he were my husband. 

Until recently, I took my vows seriously. My husband has been “it” for me since we met in college. There weren’t crazy sparks, but he was my first boyfriend—my first everything—and he was persistent. So when he proposed two weeks before I graduated, I said yes.

Five years later, we have two toddlers and a terribly vanilla, one-sided sex life. Foreplay, experimentation, throw-me-against-the-wall passion? There is none. And the kicker: He’s never gone down on me. Not once.

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“Why don’t you try?” I asked him in bed one night. “That’s a hard no for me,” he replied. “I don’t like it.” After that, he told me he’d rather I not ask again. So that night, sex ended with his orgasm, and I was left lying there, unsatisfied. 

Not long after, I noticed a hot guy hovering near me at the grocery store. Eventually, he walked up and said, “Bless the lucky guy who put a ring on that finger.” I remember thinking, I don’t think the lucky guy gets it. 

The kicker: My husband has never gone down on me. Not once.

Something about that quick conversation woke me up. That night, I downloaded Ashley Madison—the online dating service for people already in committed relationships—hoping to find someone who would. Soon, I connected with Jared*. He seemed handsome, kind, and adventurous, and after discreetly messaging for two weeks, we decided to meet up in person.

That night, I was nervous as hell. Even as a married woman, I was still pretty inexperienced sexually. I also felt guilty, of course, wondering if I’d tried everything I could have with my husband. But then I thought of all the compromises I’d offered that he’d rejected (including something involving Saran Wrap that my therapist suggested…). Oral was a nonnegotiable for him, so I decided that instead of denying myself this experience, I’d just have to get it somewhere else

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I came across this article this morning and thought to myself.

I mean i won’t lie, the sex sounds amazing but why won’t this woman just leave her husband , I was having this conversation with my other half yesterday and said to him , if a woman and a man start loosing interest in each other especially sexually, don’t you think it would be better if there was a time limit on relationship, he laughed and said, well that would be dumb because even after 15 years , I think your more beautiful then ever!

I mean that was nice to hear , and would make any woman feel good.

The thing that most men don’t seem to realize is that woman want to feel sexy for their other half’s but if the guy doesn’t notice her , she eventually stops trying or just thinks to herself why even bother.

This is the point where everything starts going wrong.

My partner and I have been together for a very long time, we have two children, the oldest is 13 and we are now having more and better sex then ever before!

We are trying things that we’ve never done before and I won’t lie some days it’s hard for me to have an orgasm but the fact that he really tried to get me there makes a wolds difference.

He might have rejected me in the past if I suggested certain things but after talking to him and saying look this is how I feel.

If this is not up for discussion I will get it somewhere else.

I told him directly to his face. He laughed at first and thought I was joking but after realizing how he has treated me and dismissed me in the past things got a little worse at first there was a lot of fighting for a week or two, the difference here is , we really do love each other and now that we understand each other’s feelings and wants more our relationship is just getting better and better.

The sex is better then ever before and we are experimenting for the first time.

So far nothing has come up that either of us don’t like. Except I’m pretty sure he hates it if I bite his lip when we kiss 💋 but he won’t admit it 😁 , which is why I always forget till it happens again.

MY ADVICE TO MEN

Tell your woman she looks beautiful even if she just woke up.

This will make her want to look better for you.

Tell her when you like something she’s wearing or when you like the style of her shoes, all these little things will let her see that you are still noticing her and that she is not just background noise.

Once she realizes it’s not an act and you really still do want her , she will want to look her best for you all the time, even if it’s just around the house.

Do not say something stupid like we’ve been together so long why should I bother. This is a definite no!

She will want to have sex more, and if you do things to her that she wants she will do things you want but a lot rarely get.

That sounds like a win win to me… Don’t you think?

If you just dismiss the things she wants to try she wil never want to do anything you want to try because that will always be in the back of her mind.

Remember that a woman has more emotions and we don’t always know how to react to things that hurt us.

MY ADVICE TO WOMAN

Tell your man how you feel.

Let him know about the things that hurt you and make you regret your decisions.

Tell him if you are no longer happy sexually and that there has to be some sort of compromise.

If not then you more then likely do not belong together.

If you have made the decision to cheat then you have in the back of your mind already decided that the two of you won’t last much longer and you have already given up, but what if you could have saved your relationship just by talking it out.

Sharing your feelings , I know a lot of men don’t like talking about their feelings but if they know it either talk or loose you, they will if they really do love you.

Remember you can’t expect him to listen and care about the things you say if you do the same thing to him. You can not over react to things if you do the same thing.

Before getting into this conversation reflect on your actions and mistakes and realize what you could have done differently.

After having the conversation give him time and space to do the same.

Who knows maby you’ll be lucky enough and have the guy you want to be with and have him look at you again like he once did. Or if that’s not what you want maby you’ll be lucky enough to the partner of your dreams

I mean let’s not kid ourselves, life is not a fairytale, but I can tell you one thing.

90% of relationships fail either because you stopped trying , your not telling each other what you want and need and almost 100% of the time because miscommunication and misunderstandings. Why not avoid this?

From your author ✍️ Miss Anonymous